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Abigail, the lovely and bright wife of Nabal, was probably both envied and pitied by those around her. Nabal’s great wealth would have provided her with ease of living, but he was also a man known for having a wicked mean streak that dominated his character and personal dealings. God help her, riches would never have made up for the daily trauma of being married to a surly, drunken, wicked fool. And perhaps, in this lies an insight on how Abigail thrived in the greatest moment of decision of her life: Abigail knew God and He did indeed help her thrive in the midst of adversity!


Abigail’s marriage to a fool did not turn her into a fool. Her husband was such a wicked man that no one could talk to him but wise Abigail refused to walk down that same path. When Nabal insulted and refused to pay the future King David for his services, the household knew exactly who to approach about the impending disaster. In this moment of truth, Abigail shows us the great value of listening. She was available to her servant. She didn’t interrupt him, or blame him, or question the motives and veracity of his claims. Abigail listened, heard the issue clearly, and “lost no time” in moving forward with a responsible plan to save her household.

When problems surface, are we listening to the right people? Can others count on us to be “safe” with their communication?  Let’s ask ourselves:

  • Do I listen to God, first and above all else?

“Look carefully how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time…do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” (Ephesians 5:15-17)

  • Am I available to listen to others?   Do others know they can come to me?

“… let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak…” (James 1:19)











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Lovely, intelligent, wise, a woman of action… Hire her immediately! She is the woman we all want to be! She is the woman we are in our finer moments!  She kind of makes us feel defeated in our low moments! But keep reading, because Abigail’s Real Life was certainly not a picnic and she has good advice for Real Women like us, Real Truth worth hearing.

Abigail is introduced to us in the Bible in I Samuel 25. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Samuel+25  This is the story of a strong woman, her weak husband, and the future King of Israel.

On each Monday this month, we will look closer at four qualities found in Abigail that we can apply to our own personal challenges. Because we don’t want to just survive, we want to be a part of something that is great! So let’s get started!

Each of us has a very real purpose for waking up today and walking through it. Whether our day will include challenge or whether it is “just more of the same”, we can rest assured that God has a reason for us to be alive and engaged with today! Abigail had a firm grasp of reality and purpose, and this allowed her to do great things in the midst of adversity.

We sometimes think truly great things are only designed for others. We believe our life is not special enough to bring about great things. We think we are destined to be on the sidelines of great, not actually in the game.

But Abigail’s daily life certainly doesn’t appear to qualify as special or great. This woman’s daily reality was a mockery of marriage to a man who was beyond difficult. Nabal exhibited anger, harshness, and unpredictable behavior…this was not a good situation. Abigail might have wondered, what is the purpose in my presence in this household. What difference can I possibly make? I feel trapped and worthless!

How did Abigail find purpose? She knew her reality, and she also knew her God! In her dramatic interaction with King David, she mentions God at least 10 times. Her words point to an understanding of God’s character and His presence. Abigail’s daily reality, dismal as it was, actually moved her toward her God-given purpose. And it was in her daily life that she established the framework for greatness. In her daily life, she had proved herself as someone others could come to for help. So in the time of crisis, a foundation of trust was already in place. Her household believed in her and followed her direction as she put forward a plan to save them all from disaster.

We each are called to walk carefully within our own unique day-to-day lives, faithfully living with a grasp of reality and the living out our God-given purposes. With God’s help, we will be ready to do great things when the moment for action arrives! This was Abigail’s experience. By faith, this can also be our experience!

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” (Ephesians 5:15-17)

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